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Index of Articles and Announcements
Jerry: Marriage is a big step, Elaine. Your life'll totally change.
Elaine: Jerry, It's three-thirty in the morning. I'm at a cockfight. What am I clinging to? ............Seinfeld, The Little Jerry, 1/9/97 WHY are you sticking around, or coming back for more??? Great article and checklist on Traumatic Bonding with abusers and psychopaths: http://www.womansavers.com/relationship-articles.asp?a=127
****WHY DO DESTRUCTIVE NARCISSISTIC RELATIVES JUST LOVE TO RUIN OUR HOLIDAYS??? FOR THE EYE-OPENING UNVARNISHED TRUTH, READ DR. SAM VAKNIN'S RIVETING ARTICLE 'A HOLIDAY GRUDGE': http://samvak.tripod.com/journal40.html ****For a healthy dose of common sense, don't miss Anna Valerious' wonderfully well-written, educational, and intriguing blog Narcissists Suck. CLICK HERE. ****Check out the Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers by clicking HERE. ****Don't miss this wonderfully educational and healing resource whose motto is "The Pain Stops Here" (PLEASE NOTE: This is a secular forum, not a Christian forum)- Daughters Of Narcissistic Mothers.com. CLICK HERE. ***ANSWER TO PSYCHOPATH RIDDLE: She reasons that if he was at her mother's funeral, he must be a friend of the family. So, if there's another family funeral, maybe he'll show up again...... Did you get it wrong? Well, don't feel bad. You don't think like a psychopath, but until now you also didn't understand how they think. At least now you know what you're up against. ****Many thanks and blessings to our dear Sister Pavitra for allowing us to post her original poem "A Poem To My Family Of Origin" on our site. It is an inspiring poem of victory over abuse and triumph over evil. You can find it in our Claiming The Victory section or just click on the link above. May you be blessed by it as we have been. ***Thank you so much to all who have posted our website on your blogs and chat groups. Because of you taking the time to help others, you have made it possible for us to help others as well. It is so uplifting to know that so many are standing up for what is right and taking a stand against abuse. We are so grateful for you and we remember you always in our prayers. Keep spreading the word, and God bless you. With much love, Sisters Renee & Denise ***Many thanks to Dr. Sam Vaknin, author of the book 'Malignant Self-Love- Narcissism Revisited' and well-known for his extensive studies on narcissistic abuse and how to deal with it, for publicizing our website on his sites, and for sending us numerous links to his own websites and others so we could add them to our links page. Click on The Lord's Links and check out these very educational and valuable sites. Thanks Sam,you are a blessing to us and to victims and survivors everywhere. ***Are you the Black Sheep of your family? If so, Dr. Angela Woodhull would like to interview you for her new book, 'EVERY FAMILY NEEDS A BLACK SHEEP.' Dr. Woodhull is a psychologist, minister, teacher, private investigator, journalist and author of numerous articles and books, including 'Coping With Difficult Teachers', 'Private Investigation Strategies & Techniques', and 'Police Communication in Traffic Stops'. If you are interested in participating, you can call Dr. Woodhull at 352 332-0514 and reverse the charges. You can also write to her at PO Box 14423, Gainesville, FL 32604-2423, or e-mail her at chachaangelina@yahoo.com.
Great article on 'honoring' abusive parents from Christianity Today:
***BY POPULAR DEMAND, we have added a section of resources for DELIVERANCE & SPIRITUAL WARFARE to our links page. Please click on THE LORD'S LINKS. *** Don't forget to click on our Prayer List and remember our sisters and brothers in your prayers. You can send us any names you would like to add at luke173@hotmail.com or PO Box 684, Chestertown, NY 12817. You must include your full name although it will not be published. We will pray for everyone , not just abuse victims. And, YES, you can add yourself! ***If you have a question or a topic relating to birth-family abuse that you would like us to write about in the future, please e-mail us. We are always grateful for new ideas. If the Lord directs us to write about your topic, your name will not be published as we are committed to protecting your privacy. All requests will be prayerfully considered and we ask for your prayers as well as we wait on the Lord's word. DON'T MISS OUR BOOK REVIEWS IN THE READING SPOTLIGHT SECTION!
NEW ARTICLES:
WHEN YOUR ABUSER OR ESTRANGED RELATIVE DIES- CONDOLENCES, OBITUARIES, AND GOING TO THE FUNERAL "MY DAYS ARE NUMBERED!" (AND YOU'RE SPEEDING IT UP BY CONFRONTING ME), OR "I'M SICK SO YOU CAN'T HOLD ME ACCOUNTABLE. HOOVERING 101 AND NO CONTACT 101
SECTION INDEX: #We've made it easier for you to read our own personal stories. Articles containing our testimonies are marked with a #. God bless, Sister Renee & Sister Denise These articles (titled in bold below) are currently available in the following sections (underlined). You can click on the articles directly from this index, or If you click on the title of each Section on the left menu, you will then be able to click on the articles in that Section. ***INDICATES THIS WEEK'S MOST POPULAR ARTICLES (HAVING THE MOST HITS) ADULT-CHILD ABUSE- THE ONLY ABUSE STILL ACCEPTED: The Abuse That Society Condones ONLINE OPINION POLL: TELL US YOUR THOUGHTS! Whether to Attend the Funeral or Visit the Deathbed of An Estranged Relative A LITTLE ABOUT US: # Sister Renee And Sister Denise CURRENT NEWSLETTER & PAST NEWSLETTERS: ***For Links to Past Newsletters, please click on the Newsletter link on the left menu and links to all the past newsletters will appear underneath it. BIRTH-FAMILY ABUSES OF ADULT DAUGHTERS: Overview- The Many Abuses of Adult Daughters # Always A Losing Proposition: Dondi's Story and Babette's Story # Still The Boss After All These Years # The Family Freeloader- Sob Stories, Con Games, And Never Having To Get Off The Couch Betrayal & Treachery- Killing A Relationship The Fast Way # When Is It Ever Going To Be My Turn?- The Exploitation Habit- If You Start It, They Will Come! WHY THEY ABUSE, BETRAY, OR ABANDON YOU: # Why?- Trying To Understand An Abuser's Motivation #Family Jealousy- The Shameful Secret Behind Abuse And Betrayal THE SILENT PARTNER & THE SILENT MAJORITY: Introduction to the Co-Conspirators # The Devil's Advocate: Handling The Family Meddler...Oops, I Mean 'Peacemaker' -Including The Appalling Story Of How My Meddling Ex-Cousin Made My Mother Cry On Her Deathbed # They Can't All Be Wrong And You Right...Or Can They?- -Family Mob Mentality, The Pathological Denial Of The Truth, And The Scapegoating Of Those Who Speak It THE EFFECTS OF ABUSE: Overview- What Are The Effects of Abuse? SETTING & ENFORCING LIMITS & BOUNDARIES: Introduction to Setting Limits Enforcing Consequences Is Not Revenge # Setting Limits- The Cure For Getting No Respect What about "Love Your Enemies"? (Matthew 5:44-48) REBUKING: Rebuke- It's For Their Own Good # Reaping What They Sow- The Natural Consequences Of Bad Behavior REPENTING & APOLOGIES: The 3 Rs Of Accountability- Repentance, Restitution, and Personal Responsibility # Why Don't They Just Apologize? Meaningful Vs. Meaningless Apologies FORGIVENESS-NOT NECESSARILY WHAT YOU THINK: No Forgiveness For The Unrepentant Different Degrees Of Reconciliation- Go With Your Comfort Level Forgiveness- Does It Matter If The Abuser Is A 'Born-Again Christian'? THE ABUSER'S REACTIONS TO REBUKE OR DIVORCE: Overview- What an Abuser Does INSTEAD of Apologizing and Changing Her Hurtful Behavior # "Let's Go To Counseling Together And Work On Our Problems" # The Preemptive Strike- Kissing Up To Your Spouse, Or Trying To Get Rid Of Him # The Old Age Excuses: She's Old- That's How They Get & He's Old- So He's Entitled # Spin Control- Making Abuse Sound Like A GOOD Thing 'You're Not Supposed To Judge Me'- The Difference Between Judging And Rebuking # 'After All I've Done For You....'- Trotting Out The 'You Owe Me' Excuse For Abuse REPROBATES & CUTTING TIES: Overview- What Is A Reprobate? # When Your Abuser Or Estranged Relative Dies- Condolences, Obituaries, And Going To The Funeral # Cutting Ties-Knowing When It's Time To Walk Away Hoovering 101 And No Contact 101 # Should I Let My Estranged Relatives Have Contact With My Children? # Satan's Evil Minion- The Unredeemable Reprobate # A Portrait Of Evil, Or How My Birth-Father Finally Sank Too Low To Dig Himself Out HAPPIER HOLIDAYS: Overview- Is It Time For A Change? #But I'm A Mother, Too! The Mother's Day and Father's Day Dilemmas # Enriching Your Holidays While Including Your Birth-Family CLAIMING THE VICTORY: Victorious Lives- Our Birthright as GOD'S Children A Poem To My Family Of Origin....By Sister Pavitra # My Name Is Renee...But It Used To Be Linda # Getting Over A Lost Relationship # Honour Thy Father And Thy Mother Is God Really Telling Us To Honor Abusive Parents? GOD'S WORD: Selected Scriptures From God's Holy Word THE WISDOM OF PROVERBS: Selections From The Book Of Proverbs READING SPOTLIGHT (Book Reviews): Boundaries- When To Say Yes, When To Say No, To Take Control Of Your Life Toxic Parents- Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy And Reclaiming Your Life Heal & Forgive- Forgiveness In The Face Of Abuse Heal & Forgive II- The Journey From Abuse And Estrangement To Reconciliation The Power Of Apology-Healing Steps To Transform All Your Relationships When You And Your Mother Can't Be Friends - Resolving The Most Complicated Relationship Of Your Life Children Of The Self-Absorbed - A Grown-Up's Guide To Getting Over Narcissistic Parents The Control Freak - Coping With Those Around You, Taming The One Within The Holy Bible, 1 John, 2 John, 3 John Safe People- How To Find Relationships That Are Good For You And Avoid Those That Aren't OUR REAL FATHER: The Biblical Duties Of A Proper Parent JOY IN JESUS: WWJRD? What Would Jesus REALLY Do? THE FREEDOM OF THE HOLY SPIRIT RECEIVING A WORD FROM THE LORD: Receiving A Word From The Lord Recognizing A Word From The Lord FINDING PEACE: HELPFUL DEFINITIONS OF SOME OF THE TERMS WE USE THE LORD'S LINKS- SOME GREAT RESOURCES
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