Luke 17:3 Ministries Inc
Saturday, May 18, 2013
For Adult Daughters of Controlling or Abusive Birth-Families
BOUNDARIES- When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life
The authors are Christian psychologists and writers are Zondervan is a Christian publishing house. Boundaries is a winner of the Gold Medallion Book Award in Recognition of Excellence in Evangelical Christian Literature, and is Biblically-based. It is well-known in the secular world as well, having been discussed on national talk shows, and it has sold over 700,000 copies.
The book discusses setting limits in many areas of your life, including at work, at home, with your parents, spouse, children, friends, etc. It answers many difficult questions, such as, 'Can I set limits and still be a loving person?', 'Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?', 'Are boundaries selfish?', and 'What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?'
Boundaries lists and talks about the Ten Laws of Boundaries, such as The Law of Sowing and Reaping, The Law of Responsibility, The Law of Respect, The Law of Envy, and The Law of Power. It defines what a boundary is and discusses how to set boundaries in your life.
The book also includes information on how others will react when you set limits, and the types of resistance you may encounter. For example, regarding 'Angry Reactions', we are told, 'The most common form of resistance one gets from the outside is anger. People who get angry at others for setting boundaries have a character problem. Self-centered, they think the world exists for them and their comfort. They see others as extensions of themselves....'
Boundaries is an excellent resource for those who are just learning to stand up for themselves.
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The Lord specifically called Sister Renee to minister to Adult Children, not their parents, estranged siblings or friends, abusive or abused spouses, or victims of other types of abuse, although what we write here can often be meaningful for those folks as well. Because of this, our ministry and website have a narrow focus which we will not be changing. We simply can't cover everything. In addition, it is not our purpose to help you re-establish contact with someone who felt it was necessary to cut you off for the sake of their own well-being. We do not keep a list of resources for estranged parents or any other type of abuse and suggest if you are sincerely interested in making amends with an estranged relative, you do an internet search for a website or group that will be more relevant to you. If you cannot find a group or site that you can relate to, we suggest you start your own, and bless other people in your position as well as find support for your personal issues.
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